Psychopaths: New Trends in Research
By Robert D. Hare (c)1995
The Harvard Mental Health Letter, September 1995
ublic concern about crime has never been greater. Perhaps most
troubling are seemingly senseless and dispassionate acts of violence,
particularly those committed by young people. In a frantic search for
understanding, we readily blame upbringing, poverty, flawed environment,
or an ineffective criminal justice system. All these may be important,
but we tend to ignore another part of the picture: the enormous social,
economic, and personal suffering inflicted by a few people whose
antisocial attitudes and behavior result less from social forces than
from an inherent sense of entitlement and an incapacity for emotional
connection to the rest of humanity. For these individuals - psychopaths
- social rules have no constraining force, and the idea of a common good
is merely a puzzling and inconvenient abstraction.
Psychopaths use charm, manipulation, intimidation, and violence to
control others and satisfy
DSM-IV on Abusive Personalities
Antisocial Personality Disorder. Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Psychopathic tendencies. Crazy.
These are all terms that you will hear the professionals to the
layperson use when discussing the person that is abusive in a cultic
relationship or even the cult leader. Just what do these terms mean? How
do these descriptions actually compare to the person that is abusive?
The following excerpts from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of
Mental Disorders fourth edition (DSM-IV) have been provided as a
For me, the DSM-IV was helpful as a research tool. I found the
disorder descriptions explained what I went through at the hands of my
abuser. I was also finally allowed the opportunity to look outside of
blaming myself for what happened in the relationship. That as a general
rule the abuser has some serious issues that need to be addressed via
the medical profession, not through undying love and devotion.
Psychological & Sexual Abuse in a Cultic Relationship
"How can I control thee? Let me count the ways..."
I really feel like I'm caught up in a Shakespeare play -- a dark comedy
at best. A satire of the human condition at worst.
These next two chapters are the turning point for me in my relationship
with my former romantic partner. This is where I finally hide into the dark recesses of my
Self. Not to come forth for at least seven years later.
I now bring you to the middle of the trip with him. The next issue of
Shattered Hearts will be the end of the book that he wrote. As with
any Shakespeare play, all does not end when the curtain closes. Human
tragedy plays out well after the last member of the audience leaves....
The book that follows, written by my former romantic partner, is copied in its
entirety, spelling and grammar errors are the author's and are not
edited. I have changed the names of all person's involved in this trip
for their own privacy. The only names that are not altered are his
and mine. The additional commentary regarding the book are copyrighted
to Pamela Fitzpatrick, unless otherwise specified. Furthermore, the
commentary written by Pamela Fitzpatrick is supplied for research
purposes only to the copyrighted document written by him.
Article temporarily under construction due to threatened legal action. continued....
Growing Up F--ked in Maharishiville
Annie's story is what happens to a child when a community turns their
back on her.
As a society, we will see more and more of these lost children when they
walk away from these groups as adults. All these children know is the
group and the abuse. They are not taught how to be self sufficient or to
be a part of the world as we know it. All they know is the group.
Most abusive groups even have programs set up to condition the children
to the mindset of the group. Just to teach the children to conform to
what their parents are now. The children are isolated from others,
possibly allowed to feel more special then the other children, even
being told to shun those that do not conform to the group thinking.
Read and learn. And hopefully you will not turn your back when something
isn't quite right with the children in your community.
A Mother Leaves a Cult for Her Daughter
TESTIMONY OF JANE GREENE
Jane Greene's testimony provided here is a compelling look at what
happens in a destructive group. Keep in mind that the type of choices
that Jane made are happening in many groups, not just this particular
Look for the seminars or programs that are directed towards young
people. Programs that do not allow contact with other youth groups or
school functions. Programs that tend to keep the children busy with
"like minded" individuals.
I am aware that this definition could include rather mainstream
organizations but the questions to ask yourself is, do you also provide
other social outlets for your children? Or is the organization the only
source of social outlet for you and your children?
What Jane became removed from, her education and her child is a very
common theme among those of us that are recovering from a cult
If you are watching this happen to someone that you love or care about
-- keep in contact. Do not confront the people. Be informative about
world events in casual conversation. Arrange family outings to the park
or just walks with the family or even a dinner. Some rather simple ideas
but ones that can keep a family in a destructive group involved in the
"Testimony of Jane Greene"
WISH ME HAPPY ANNIVERSARY
Anniversaries. Times to celebrate joy and happiness. Gathering of
friends and family. Sharing of memories and good times.
To those of us that were involved in cultic relationships anniversaries
take on a whole new meaning. Sometimes in ways that we don't even
realize. In my case, I discovered one of mine while working on this
I have treated the month of September as a personal joke for the past 7
years or so. Just always seemed like there was something chaotic going
on. Like moves, job changes, or heartbreak.
Wasn't until I was working on the next installment of "Welcome to My
Nightmare" that I made what I now call the September Connection.
September. The month that the trip occurred. Twelve years ago this
LETTERS TO THE EDITOR
This is your place to tell me what you would like to see in future
issues, discuss what has worked for you in your recovery process and let
me know if I did good (hey, it's nice to know!)
I also would like this to be a place for what isn't getting discussed
regarding cultic relationships -- how you feel if you are seeing your
loved one in such a relationship. Or share with us what is working. All
postings will be anonymous if you request and will not be stored/saved once
These are just some ideas to get us started here. Email me at Pam Fitzpatrick