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Additional guidelines for learning control and restraint
- a self-examination exercise
Spring 1988


1. Deceit

a. Doing an act "on the sly."
b. Lying to my teachers or any of my classmates.
c. Keeping an offense to myself, not exposing it the same day.
2. Sensuality - permitting arousal in thought or in action (not nipping it in the bud).

3. Breaking any instruction or procedure knowingly.


1. Taking any action without using my check partner.
2. Trusting my own judgment - or using my own mind.
3. Twisting procedures for my own benefit.
4. Responding defensively to my classmates or teachers.
5. Criticizing or finding fault with my classmates or teachers.
6. Allowing blatant or lingering negativity, accepting the position of "I can't."
7. Permitting physical or verbal abuse (outbursts, harsh words, sarcasm, swearing, anger, hurtful teasing, loss of temper) toward classmates.
8. Allowing jealousy towards any classmates or comparing myself to others.
9. Staying in my own head, having private thoughts, not staying open with my partner - separateness.
10. Putting myself first, wanting my own way, rebelliousness - selfishness.
11. Entertaining inappropriate fears and worries, e.g.: Am I going to be asked to leave the class? Will our rest or consuming be adequate for my needs?
12. Inappropriately offering suggestions, second-guessing, or jumping ahead of my teachers.
13. Exaggerating vehicular symptoms.
14. Allowing anxiety, stress, tension, hyperness to affect my performance.
15. Picking or choosing certain tasks.
16. Having likes or dislikes.
17. Permitting laziness or slothfulness.
18. Procrastinating, having misplaced priorities, or poor timing.
19. Permitting lack of control over emotions to the point that it interferes with my work or rest or is a distraction to others.
20. Participating in extremes in sensitivity - either blatantly insensitive or overly sensitive - to the point of hurt feelings, either hurting my feelings or the feelings of others.
21. Desiring attention or approval - wanting to be seen as good.
22. Using inadequate restraint (responding or acting too quickly, voice volume, noise level with feet, doors, or other objects).
23. Engaging in familiarity, casualness, gossip, lack of restraint with others.
24. Being too aggressive or pushy.
25. Exercising poor control of thoughts running through my head, being easily distracted.
26. Lacking in effort and commitment.
27. Permitting impatience or intolerance.
28. Being vain about my appearance, vibrating femininity or masculinity in any way.
29. Having inappropriate curiosity.
30. Identifying with influences - using the "I" or "me" pronoun in application to an offense instead of recognizing that it was an influence using me.
31. Overexamination - finding a negative where there isn't one.

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